So for you that don’t know, my wife and I had our first kid this past Tuesday! Brette Spangenberg…healthy 8lb 2oz baby girl!
As I’m talking to other people about their kids, inevitably, one of the first things people talk about is the baby’s weight at birth. Brette weighs in slightly bigger than average, so I found myself thinking, “ha my baby is bigger than yours!”, as people told me about their babies who just happened to be smaller. After doing this a handful of times, it hit me…I’m being a crazy parent!
Now for those of you that haven’t heard me talk about this topic before, I think parents get a very bad wrap. 99% of parents just simply love the hell out of their kids, are very proud of their accomplishments, and are inherently very protective of their kids (rightfully so!)…but sometimes, in the heat of the moment, that can cause an emotional reaction or thought that isn’t the optimal for their kid’s career long term.
Why the heck does it matter who’s baby weighs more at birth? The truth is pretty simple…it doesn’t. I was just caught being proud of my daughter. Instead ofcomparing my baby vs others, I should’ve just been enjoying my time with her.
The balancing act we go through, as parents, is loving the heck out of our kids, being proud of them and their accomplishments, while not being caught in the trap of comparison because at the end of the day, it’s not about our egos or about what other players are doing…it’s about our kids and helping them develop tools that will help them be success as their careers grow.
So who’s baby weighs the most right now doesn’t matter. What matters is that our kids know they are loved and supported…and not because of an accomplishment or their place on a leader board, but because of their dedication, effort, and type of person that they are. Be obsessed.
Director of Baseball
Maplezone Sports Institute